Every parent has a moment when the whole world seems to stop. When the reality of having a baby hits you, it’s normal to feel overwhelmed for a while. After all, you’re responsible for the life and well being of another person.
While you’re getting ready for the baby, you will inevitably have some fears and doubts. This can be further fueled by the many misconceptions floating around. The movies, social media, and even the news can confuse you about what to expect. Add to that advice from friends and acquaintances and it’s no wonder why you’re confused! To help you relax, are here are some misconceptions you may be dealing with.
You’ve Got to Have Everything Figured Out
Although you can find many resources on parenting, experience is the only true teacher. It’s impossible to be fully prepared for everything that could happen. So, don’t worry if you haven’t finished reading a gazillion baby books. There have never been first-time parents who knew it all, in the history of humanity. Don’t force yourself to know “what to expect when you’re expecting.”
What matters the most is that both parents are in agreement about key aspects of your child’s future. You should be clear on what your values are. Now would be a good time to find out if there are any conflicting views. That way, you will work better together once the baby arrives.
Buying Gifts Shows How Much You Care
It is a common practice to show a newborn baby with gifts. Yet, besides getting a good bath, the only thing a baby wants to be showered with is love. Knowing this is crucial if you’re stressing out about the financial aspects of having a baby. It’s not about impressing others. The key lies in ensuring your baby is physically and emotionally safe.
Of course, it’s not always easy to provide all the essential financial needs. But, in the beginning, your actual baby budget will tend to be minimal. Instead of trying to lavish the baby with gifts, save the money for the time your child is older. That way, your family budget will be way more effective.
You Won’t Know How to Connect with Your Baby
Another fear parents have concerns connecting and communicating with the baby. This fear tends to be built around the fact that the baby can’t speak. Plus, it is commonly believed that babies only express themselves through crying.
While this is partly true, it doesn’t reflect how things actually work. In reality, you will naturally connect with your baby via instinct. This may sound strange to you but it makes sense when you think about it. The baby observes your facial expressions and can feel your energy. These are all natural ways of communicating. Once you look into your baby’s eyes for the first time, you will feel how connected you are.
Here is the most important thing to remember: you will learn one step at a time. Raising children is part of the human experience. Accept that you can’t always be perfect; you’ll make some mistakes along the way. As long as you’re focused on doing your best, you will find answers to all your questions. And, your baby will be glad to have you as a parent.