Remember when you were a kid, and your parents said all that you needed to be successful was a college degree, maybe an internship, and then you’d be able to make an adult life? Now you’re graduating college and learning that every entry level job, which is what you are qualified for, requires five years of experience, and you’re asking, “how do I get five years of experience without an entry level job? I have bills to pay!” Worry not fellow in debt college/grad student, you are in good company; take a page from the Millennial Playbook, and move back-in with your parents and work highly underpaid internships. Before you take that plunge, there are a couple of things to consider.
You Are a Grown Adult
I don’t mean you have bills, or a mortgage, or a 401-k, but you don’t get to sit around all day playing videogames. This isn’t summer vacation, this isn’t retirement. This is the planning stage before a chapter of Fire Emblem. Examine where you are and what you need to do, and get it done. Yes, you are probably staying in your childhood bedroom, and yes you don’t have bills. But, you need to be productive if you want this stay to be temporary. Something I would definitely recommend is discussing contributing to household expenses and bills – forcing you to be productive, to get an internship or low paying job. You are transitioning to a full-fledged member of society, not hiding in your mom’s basement.
Not Your Roof
Depending on your parents, you might have to check-in with them when staying out late or follow house rules, much like when you were a kid. That part isn’t fun, but truth be known this isn’t your house, you are a guest. While it is important that you have your own space set up, it is also important to remember that you are not supposed to stay with them forever. You might find it useful to set up some rules with your parents to help prevent resentment on both sides like: if a curfew is in effect, if significant others can stay the night, is there an expectation of chores to be done. Explicitly discuss these things, it will make your life much easier in the long run.
Your Stuff Won’t Fit
I don’t mean your clothes, that’s probably true though, odds are you never lost the Freshman Fifteen. What I mean is the furniture and property that you acquired while away from home. That couch, bed frame, and your electronics are all probably going to need to go into storage.
You Will Lose Personal Space
Simple fact, and goes with this not being you being a guest. You do not have free reign of the house. You have limited personal space, and it is important to set up boundaries. You are not a child, make sure that your parents are aware of that fact, but respect the rules of the house. That means if you need to check-in after nine on a weekday, then do that; if you respect their rules, they will respect yours.
Moving back home is hard, especially after the free-for-all that is college, but this is an increasingly common next step. Do remember that this is meant to be a temporary thing, that you are planning your next move and taking the actions necessary to see that through. Use this time to build out your resume through volunteer work or internship experience. It will do wonders for you in the long run. If you have student loan debt, this time can be utilized to put the bulk of your paycheck towards that so it doesn’t become a looming specter over the rest of your life. There are cons to moving back home, but be sure to stay productive so those cons are manageable. Keep at it, and soon your kids will be moving back in with you.